girls, boys and

[hugme]

Ok, I have been thinking about this quite a bit and I think I understand it now... this is from listening to a lot of my friends and their troubles... it's on the way men and women feel about masturbation. Being a guy I understand my side... but I didn't understand the difference until recently...

Now remember, this is the cast for MOST of the people I have talked to.. not everyone.

So being a guy when I start dating someone and therefore have a regular sex partner... my masturbation schedule doesn't change that dramatically (if at all). Sex is something else in addition to masturbation, it's not a one or the other thing... Just because I started eating pie doesn't mean I don't like cake any more... I still like cake, and if I can, I'm going to have a big piece of pie on top of my big piece of cake (use that metaphor however you like).

Most of the women I have talked to drastically change their masturbation habits when they start having sex regularly... while this concept is foreign to me I now know and understand it I think. From what I have seen most women think of sex as a REPLACEMENT for masturbation. If they are having sex, they don't feel the need to masturbate any longer.

It's something important for you to talk about with your partner so there are no surprises.... but remember they probely think about it differently than you do... just because it sounds strange to you remember it's just different, it doesn't change how that person feels about you.

Now this only becomes a problem when the masturbation replaces the sex... which is an even more foreign concept as to why the HELL anyone would want to do that... I mean.. common... it's sex.... even if you have already masturbated 6 or 7 times that day... still... your getting laid... DUH.....

Comments

[nikki-6.livejournal.com]

I do not think that sex is a replacement for masturbation, but I would much rather have pie then cake any day of the week.

[hugs.livejournal.com]

see, I personally would rather have pie AND cake.... at the same time... then separately... then at the same time again....


but that's just me ;-D

[i-am-devilbunny.livejournal.com]

Sounds like Hue (ooops is that my outloud voice?)

[hugs.livejournal.com]

how about one piece of pie on top of the other... with a little cake on the side....



mmmm pie....


and how about some icecream? that's aways good with pie...

[poisongirl.livejournal.com]

I am right there with you about wanting pie and cake and ice cream and maybe even sprinkles.


This makes me want to repost my masturbation post from a few years ago.

[hugs.livejournal.com]

and a cherry on top?

[poisongirl.livejournal.com]

And all thirty one flavors too!

Lemme see if I can dig up that post.

[garybaldy.livejournal.com]

While i have never used masturbation to replace sex. The orgasm i get from sex has nothing on the orgasm i get from masturbation. the difference is big, would be like comparing a firecracker to nuclear bomb.

Because of that, i have low regard for sex. Its never been all that. Everyone goes on and on about how great sex is and i am like yeah whatever.

[dovetail66.livejournal.com]

I still have my regular ten times a day or more routine. And ive been with geoff for over a year and a half.

[i-am-devilbunny.livejournal.com]

I'm happy to say that both my husband and I are comfortable with the idea of masturbation as well as sex.
Though he might not be comfortable with me saying it :D